Dimitie Kendall Intuitive Life Coach

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Abraham, The Law of Attraction and Resistance

January 26, 2012 4:07 am ⋅ 2 Comments ⋅

It’s funny how synchronicity works! I recently picked up my old copy of ‘Ask and it is Given’, by Esther and Jerry Hicks. For anyone who doesn’t know this book, it is about the Law of Attraction and is the channelled information of Abraham. When I first bought this book many years ago, I couldn’t read it. None of it made sense to me and I kept falling asleep every time I tried (not sure if that happens to anyone else?). Now many years on and haven grown spiritually, I was amazed to pick this book up again, be able to read and understand everything that it was saying!

I wanted to share one thing in the book, that has really helped me to sort out negative and positive thinking.

There is a scale of your emotions in the Book, from those that give us the greatest connection to Source energy (or however you call it) and those that don’t. Here they are:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

2. Passion

3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness

4. Positive Expectation/Belief

5. Optimism

6. Hopefulness

7. Contentment

8. Boredom

9. Pessimism

10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience

11. “Overwhelment”

12. Disappointment

13. Doubt

14. Worry

15. Blame

16. Discouragement

17. Anger

18. Revenge

19. Hatred/Rage

20. Jealousy

21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness

22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

The trick with this scale is to look at where you are at with your emotions and begin to work your way up the scale from the negative emotions to the more positive. According to the Law of Attraction the more we resist our connection to Source Energy, the more we cut off the flow to all the wonderful things that our available to us. So if we are at the lowest end of the scale in Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness about a certain situation and we begin to feel angry about that situation, then we have moved up the scale from 22 to 17. So the more we move up the scale to better feeling thoughts, the closer we get to our connection to Source Energy and achieving what we really want for that situation.

Here’s an example:

You feel depressed (22.) that you cannot find the job you really want.

So you begin to feel angry (17.) that you don’t like the job you are in and the people you work with.

You begin to blame (15.) everyone for where you are at with your job.

You feel “overwhelment (11.)” that you can’t do everything in your job description.

You decide you want to find a new job, but you feel impatient (10.) when you start looking and nothing happens.

Then you come across a job description that you like and you begin to feel hopefulness (6.) that you might apply for and get that job.

You begin to imagine yourself in that job and begin to feel happiness (3.).

You apply for the job and become impatient (10.) that you haven’t had a response.

But you still keep your focus on feelings of hopefulness (6.) and happiness (3.)

You know you have passion (2.) for this job.

Finally you get a response asking you to come in for an interview. You love (1.) the people you meet and have an appreciation for what they do (1.). They see your enthusiasm, happiness and love for the job.

Guess what?

Source Energy delivers you what you want!

You get the job!!

I know this is a simplistic view how to  go about things and there is a lot more in the Book that gives you many tools and techniques to continually help you reach those higher vibration feelings. But the simple thing is the more you reach for those higher feeling vibrations, the more you will get what you want to come into your life.

By figuring out what you don’t want (lower negative thoughts/emotions), it helps you to figure out what you do want (positive thoughts/emotions) and to bring those things into your life.

So what’s happening in your life that you would like to change?

Love Dimitie xx

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Why Do We Choose the Negative over the Positive?

January 12, 2012 10:11 pm ⋅ 7 Comments ⋅

I observed an interesting thing happen yesterday. It was morning and I had just come back from dropping the kids off at school. I was feeling good! I had a lot of good things planned for the day. I was eating breakfast when my husband came down to the kitchen. He was ready for work. I commented on how slim he was looking from all the weight he had lost and what a great thing that was. At the time he was cutting a section off his belt as it was now too big for him. But when he went to put it back in the belt buckle he couldn’t get it back in. He became so frustrated and angry. He blamed the scissors for being too blunt and worked himself up into such a state. I kept saying to him, not to get so worked up about it (probably not the best thing to say, but I know he does this to me when I am working myself up into an angry mess). So not only did he work himself up into a state, but I took on all his pain and suffering (old Shaman ways I think) over a silly old belt buckle! It was one of those moments where you wonder, why an earth is this happening? It wasn’t until this morning that I had part of the answer.

I had paid him a compliment, but I don’t think he could really accept it. So he created an angry drama to counteract the good. So it got me wondering, why do we always choose the Negative over the Positive? I am the first to admit that I do it all the time. If someone says something good about me or about a situation, then I always look for the negative. But that seems to be how the world works at present and all of us in it.

Do we do this so we have a contrast of good and bad, yin and yang? Is it our Karma? Is it cause and effect? Is it the Ego? I’ve studied all of these things, but humans still have a natural tendency to seek out the negative before the positive. If you are talking to someone, just listen to whether what they say is predominantly negative or positive. Is it part of our human evolution to realize we have a choice?

Being a Healer, I know what it’s like to be in the positive and in that loving energy. It’s wonderful!! Everything flows, everything is simple. Amazing things happens. So why don’t we choose that State every time? Some of you more Enlightened Beings may be able to answer this question. I know what it’s like to feel the peace and the calmness and the love, but most of the day I would say my thoughts revert back to the negative. So why is that? It would be much more simple to embrace the positive and the world would be a much better place…..

Anyone out there care to answer my question?

Love Dimitie xx

 

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21 December 2012 is the Beginning, Not the end!

January 11, 2012 2:27 am ⋅ 2 Comments ⋅

A wonderful, talented, healing friend of mine Colleen Clark, posted a great website about the true meaning of 2012. The website is www.13moon.com

Please take a look. It’s written by Eden Sky. Once you enter the website, click on the 2012 Prophecy link.

The site is beautifully written. It explains, that on 21 December 2012 we will be transitioning from a 5125 year cycle the Earth and it’s people have been going through to a New World Cycle. Below is the true prediction of what the Mayan’s were writing about.

“The accurate content of the message for the Maya Prophecy for our times is that the date of December 21, 2012 is nothing more than a general marker, a specific date that infact indicates a whole era, an era of hope, an era of opportunity – the opportunity to re-establish a sense of community amongst all humans of this planet…” -From The Maya Taino Prophecy Initiative, led by Maya Elder Antonio Aj Ik and Taino Elder Miguel Sague – http://mayatainoprophecy.webs.com

I must saying after reading this post, I have greater peace of mind that those of us who are working on ourselves, in order to help others awaken to their true, loving selves, are on the right track! The shift in human consciousness really started last year (or many years before), but is steadily growing in its pace. More and more people are beginning to take accountability for their own actions.

The more of us that continue to “Look Within”, clear the negativity and replace it with Positive thinking, will continue to affect change our External world.

Up until reading the Eden Sky writings, I didn’t fully understand why it was important for me to continuously clear my negative thinking. Now I do! Not only does it change my own internal world, by bringing a deeper peacefulness and awareness of my existence, but it has an incredible effect on the external world around me. I firmly believe, like many others, We Are All Connected!  Whatever I do to Change Myself has a huge effect on the people I interact with.  So if I am peaceful and loving, that energy radiates out to all those I interact with. If I am angry and frustrated, then again it affects all those around me. I have seen great changes from my family and friends, becoming more peaceful, tolerant and understanding towards one another, from the work that I have been doing on myself.

So imagine if we all continue to work on our own negative patterns, how it will change the very nature and structure of our Earth.

So I urge you (if you haven’t already) to start looking at where there is negativity in your life and start to Clear it!  (If you need help knowing how to do this, let me know! Trust me, I am becoming a Master at it ;-D.). If you know how to clear your negative patterns, then the positive patterns of kindness, understanding, peace and forgiveness towards yourself and others Will happen.

Love Dimitie xx

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Anger Weakens, Love strengthens

December 15, 2011 5:32 am ⋅ 4 Comments ⋅

It’s been an interesting week! My Internet has been down and it’s been like having my right arm cut off!! I have had to access all my emails etc from random coffee shops around town with WiFi access. So my blogging came to a standstill.

I’m sure all of you have been in the same situation as me where you have been passed backwards and forwards from your telecoms providers to your internet providers to your modem providers and no one can solve the mysterious problem as to why your internet is down. They are all very polite and friendly, but no one can solve the issue. Needless to say it tested my patience to the utmost limit! In the end the only thing that seemed to get through to them was to say it was a LIFE and DEATH situation and that I was LOSING MONEY from not being connected ;-) . A small exaggeration I know, but that’s what it felt like not being able to connect….

As I know we are responsible for creating our own realities, I did ponder why this was occurring. People told me it was Mercury in Retrograde. Astrologers know this well. See the link here to understand this further:

www.astrology.about.com/od/advancedastrology/p/MercuryRetro.htm

But I knew there must have been something in my life I had to learn from this. Afterall I lost my cool with all the people trying to help me and realised I was spiralling into anger and the negative. My anger and frustration not only caused me pain and left me feeling weak and helpless, it was also transferred energetically to the other people trying to help me. So a whole chain of unhappiness was created. I think this is one of the reasons the problems in our world escalate. It starts with one person being angry which they pass on to the next person and before you know it a snowball effect has occurred.

So I realised from this one incident that if we focus on the negative, then it will create more of the negative. For example if we keep focussing on War then we will perpetuate that thinking.

I think the key is to focus on the positive. Instead of focussing on War, we need to focus on Peace. If we focus on our world self destructing from climate change, then that’s probably what we are going to get in the long-term. I think it would be better to focus on the positive, such as all the wonderful sustainable projects that are being created in the world, to help the planet keep going. Another one would be the amount of focus the world has at the moment on lack and poverty. Aren’t we better to focus on a world and it’s people who are financially abundant all the time?

So with Christmas just around the corner, I’m going to start focussing on Peace, Love and Happiness, instead of anger, hate and sadness. Anyone care to join me?

I also realised that when the negative comes up in your life, Just ACCEPT it’s there. Don’t try to fight it or ignore it as that will only escalate it. Once you accept it’s there, then you recognise it and can go about changing it to the Positive.

I think that’s why we have duality on Earth, negative and positive, yin and yang. It’s to help us make choices of how we want to live our lives.

How are you living your life? Are you mainly in the negative phase, or have you recognised that being in the negative does no one any good and you are moving into the Positive?

What do you think?

Love Dimitie xx

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The Key to Change is to Question!

December 1, 2011 2:53 am ⋅ 2 Comments ⋅

An interesting thought popped into my head this morning so I thought I’d better explore it a bit more. The thought was, ‘if you want to change something, the first step is to question it.’

If you are like me you question everything!! It drives my husband crazy, especially if we are watching a movie for the first time ;-) . I always ask him, “why is that character doing that? where are they going? what do you think will happen next?” “I don’t know?!!” is often the response from my husband.

I am probably not really asking him, I am really asking myself. I’m just verbal about it. You should see the amount of questions that go on in my brain!! I guess my verbalizing the questions out loud is the spillover from all the questions that build up in there!

Then it dawned on me this morning why I do it. The penny’s dropped and I realize that before I can change anything, I have to first question why it is happening or why I am thinking it. If I don’t, then there is no awareness that there is even a problem.

I really believe that once you start to question something, you place your focus on that issue and from there comes the awareness and then the choice to change.

How much would you say you question things happening in your life? Are there things in your life that you think you can’t change? Do you say to yourself, “Well that’s the way it is and I can’t change that!” Whenever you hear yourself saying that, I challenge you to question why your think that.

From my own personal experiences I know that our thoughts create our reality. So what reality are you creating? One that is happy, joyous and fun-filled or sad, unhappy and miserable? If we are joyous and happy, well then we don’t really need to question it. It’s how we are meant to be.

It’s only when we are sad and unhappy, that we need to start questioning why. So when something negative is happening in your life, are you questioning WHY it is happening to you? Most of us aren’t. We just tend to blame the other person for our unhappiness, instead of looking within and asking, “What have I done to attract this into my life?”" What is the lesson I need to learn here?”

Here’s an example of a negative thinking statement: “People are mean to me”. If you realize that you are thinking this way, chances are that’s what you will experience.

So how do you change that thought? Well you could affirm that “People are kind to me” and see if that changes it. Sometimes it can be as simple as that. However if you find you are doing that, and it’s still not changing, then you need to go deeper into your thinking and question the statement even further.

It goes something like this.

Statement: People are mean to me!

Question: Why are people mean to me?

Statement: Because I am mean to them!

Question:  Why am I mean to them?

Statement: Because my sister was mean to me growing up.

Question:  Why was my sister mean to me growing up?

Statement: I let her be mean to me.

Question:  Why did I let her be mean to me?

Statement: I didn’t know any other way.

Question:  Why didn’t I know any other way?

Statement: That ‘s the way it was in our family.

Question:  Why was it like that in my family?

Statement: Because my family was poor and had to struggle. So there was always a lot of stress in our household.

Question:  Why were they poor and had to struggle?

Statement: Because my family thought that was the way it was and that you couldn’t change anything.

When we question like this example we get down to the bottom of our thinking. From here we gain an insight into why we think those thoughts. I also think that once we understand our thinking it also gives us an understanding of our interactions with other people which therefore leads to more compassion for ourself and others.

So What are You Thinking Right Now? I challenge to you to take a look. You’ll be amazed at what you discover. Either write it down in a journal or talk to someone who will listen to you without judgement.

Love Dimitie xx

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Be Kind to Yourself Experiment – Day 21!

November 3, 2011 10:46 am ⋅ 6 Comments ⋅

Yay!! I’ve made it! Day 21 :-) . I must say it’s gone really fast. Doing this experiment has helped me in many ways.

It’s definitely taught me to be kinder to myself.

It’s taught me discipline in terms of writing a post everyday.

It’s taught me just how much negative thinking I really do in a day and at any given moment I have the choice to continue down that track or switch to the positive thinking track.

It’s taught me to go with the flow more.

It’s certainly been wonderful to be able to write all my thoughts down.

I’ve enjoyed meeting new people writing this blog.

It’s given me the confidence to know that I can write something of interest.

Most importantly it’s taught me to take a different view of people and how I interact with them. Sometimes we are quick to judge any given situation we experience and learning to be kinder to myself, has definitely taught me to be kinder to others, both in thoughts and actions.

So anyone out there who is feeling a bit low, or know that they are hard on themselves and others, I challenge you to do this 21 day experiment. It’s definitely changed my life for the better and I know it will yours.

So go make a list of 21 ways to be kind to yourself and then start writing about it. I would love to see how it helps others.

Mmm…. now what to do next? I guess divine inspiration will hit me (probably at 3am in the morning like it usually does).

Until then.

Love Dimitie xx

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Be Kind To Yourself Experiment – Day 20

November 2, 2011 10:57 am ⋅ Leave a Comment ⋅

I’m up to Day 20! Woo hoo! One more day to go until I complete my findings for this experiment. I must say it has been a really interesting thing to do and not at all what I had expected. I had intended to do a structured activity each day from a list of 21 things that I had written down as ways to be Kind to Myself, but most of that’s gone by the wayside.

I know it sounds strange, but it almost feels like, what I intended to do, has been gently guided in a different direction. Sort of like my Ego saying, ok I’m going to do this and the Universe lovingly saying, no Dimitie it would be better if you do this. So I have really embraced going with the flow on this one. Which is completely ironic considering I think I am usually a control freak!

I had a classic example of that yesterday. I had a meeting with someone and the words she used to sum up my son and myself were that we were ‘laid back’. Yes I would say my son is definitely that, but I wouldn’t consider myself that. As I have mentioned, I’m the complete opposite. The funny thing was she was implying that being laid back wasn’t a good thing (or that’s how I interpreted it). But I thought that would have been a good trait to have? Imagine if the world was more laid back, would we have fewer wars, less anger, less negative thinking? I guess it’s all about finding a balance, between being laid back and being driven. Is there a middle ground?

I must say I came away from the meeting rather confused. Everything in society gears us towards being driven and focused and goal oriented. Sometimes to the point of break down for many people and systems. So shouldn’t we adopt more ‘laid back’ approaches in our everyday living? I’m sure positive thinking comes into play here. Does being in more of a positive mindset help us to be more laid back? I would think so. Things that would normally make us angry or upset we would probably let go of and allow ourselves to just ‘be’ in any given situation. Happy and peaceful.

The other thing I observed over the course of the past few days is that with expectations, usually comes negative thinking. If we have an expectation about something and we don’t get what we want, we usually go into a negative thinking phase. For example, you expect you partner to make you dinner and when they don’t  do that, you feel let down and disappointed. I think it’s good to have goals for things, but expectations? I think they set us up for disappointment.

I can’t really think of any given Be Kind to Myself moment today, but just doing this whole experiment has given me the gift of insight into myself and how I interact with the world.

One more day…. but it’s really only the beginning.

Love Dimitie xx

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